Control

"I can change almost anything. I can't change human nature."

Funny how quotes are interrupting my thoughts and influencing my writing of late. I heard the one above on a new sci-fi-ish movie preview last night. It was a most unlikely place for inspiration and I have no idea what context the quote is taken from but how true it rings.

There's a lot of things in our lives we can change from our hair and eye color to the size of our lips, chests, stomachs... We can change our look, we can change where we live, who we associate with. We can change our names, our jobs, the stations we watch and/or listen to. We can change how and what we eat, drink, wear. We have been given the power by technology and our creator to change almost anything save one integral part of life, human nature.

In general I know what human nature is defined by. Our thoughts, emotions, our heart. But I wanted to find a technical definition as reference to my own interpretation. Wikipedia defined it as: The set of logical characteristics, including ways of thinking, feeling and acting that all normal human beings have in common. However, it is possible to change thoughts, feelings and even actions; they are temporal and fleeting. So what is it about human nature that we can't change?

We can't change how others will turn and direct their thoughts, feelings and actions towards us. And as much as I've wanted to do that at times, it's never worked out for me. So I guess I took the long way around to simply say, the only real control I have in this universe is over myself. And truly accepting that is profound.

Making Love

I ran across a quote yesterday that I loved and it provided much food for thought. The quote said this,

"Most people don't know how to make love."

Initially my thoughts turned toward sex as most of yours just did;), so I'll start there. What is making love vs. having sex? On a basic level sex only requires the physical meeting of two partners. Making love suggests emotions and intimacy and is usually indicative of a relationship. In a culture saturated with skin and sex and lust I'd have to agree many don't know how to slow down, connect and MAKE love...

But making love outside of the bedroom is also a legitimate issue most people don't take the time to do. It takes caring and effort to create love in the space of your world. To give love to the people who love you and others who don't, isn't easy and is certainly risky! What if you loose that relationship? What if the person rejects your attempts to love? What if in giving love you loose and get hurt?

We're all so used to the generics in life. Getting the physical fix without the emotional fulfillment. And why? I think for most it's easier that way. It's self-protection. If we don't get attached, make love and/or get our emotions involved we don't get hurt. By keeping love at bay we can walk away and brush it off if it doesn't work out. No harm no foul.

Not me, I wanna know how to create and make love and do it well! I don't care how much it hurts. The pay off of real love is so much more than the generic version. To live and to love without restraints and regrets, to me, is truly living. Seriously what else were our emotions and senses given to us for?

Experience life, feel it! Do it people. And know I love you!:)

M.I.A.

I can't believe it's been almost three weeks since I updated here. What kind of a blogger am I?? Definitely not active enough on this site of late. That is in part because I've been posting 2-3 times per week on examiner.com. I've spent a lot of time I would have otherwise allotted to blogging trying to familiarize myself with their publishing tools and system. I am enjoying writing for examiner because it combines two things that I love - music and writing! So if you miss me (I hope so) and need a quick blog fix you can always jump over there to hear my random music raves, reviews and opinions several times a week. And if there is anything you want me to research and write about send me your ideas. I'm always open to that!

Becuase I'm in the music creative vein I ran into a song while digging through the Grammy nominations last week that I absolutely love!! I relate to it on so many different levels. One of the lines in this song says: "A life perfect, ain't perfect if you don't know what the struggle's for.". That line exposed new elements of an old fundamental truth. In reality we never reach the "perfect" life but we all dream and anticipate getting to a happy place in our journey's. A place where we've accomplished goals we've set and dreams we've worked to achieve. But we can't get there without the struggle and neglect, even poverty. The struggle is what makes the end result taste all the sweeter. If you never fight for anything, you never win...The struggle is part of the perfection in the end.

I'll leave you with those thoughts...and as always my love!

XO